My Mother/my Self

My Mother/my Self

The Daughter's Search for Identity

Book - 1997
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When Nancy Friday began her research for My Mother/My Self in the early 1970’s no work existed that explored the unique interaction between mother and daughter. Today psychotherapists throughout the world acknowledge that if women are to be able to love without possessing, to find work that fulfills them, and to discover their full sexuality, they must first acknowledge their identity as separate from their mother’s. Nancy Friday’s book played a major role in that acceptance. The greatest gift a good mother can give remains unquestioning love planted deep in the first year of life, so deep and anassailable that the tiny child grown to womanhood is never held back by the fear of losing that love, no matter what her own choice in love, sexuality, or work may be.

Through candid self-disclosure and hundreds of interviews, Friday investigates a generational legacy and reveals the conflicting feelings of anger, hate, and love the daughter’s hold for their mothers–and why they so often “become” that mother themselves.

Baker & Taylor
Featuring a new introduction, a twentieth anniversary edition of the best-seller explores how mothers affect their daughters' identity, feelings about their bodies, relationships with men, and self-esteem. By the author of My Secret Garden. Reprint.

& Taylor

A candid exploration of the mother-daughter relationship probes the private emotions, pains, joys, and secrets and charts the stages of a woman's life

Publisher: New York : Delta Trade Paperbacks, 1997
Edition: Twentieth anniversary edition
ISBN: 9780385320153
Branch Call Number: 158.24 FRIDA
Characteristics: xvii, 425 pages ; 21 cm
Alternative Title: My mother, my self
Notes: Originally published: New York : Delacorte Press, 1977


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Feb 18, 2018

At the time this was originally written, I am sure it was revolutionary. It has not aged well. The author is dealing with her own relationship with her mother, and it feels like she is projecting that onto all the rest of womankind. The description mentions many interviews with women, but the strongest voice is hers. I am sure the process was therapeutic for her, but it is not too instructive now.


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